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What If?

July 14, 2015 By Caroline TeSelle

what if_whateverI was tucking her into bed one night last week & after we prayed together, out of the blue she rambles off a few, “What if…?” questions.

“What if I get sick & we miss the trip to the zoo? What if the doctor tells me I need another surgery? What if______?”

We had a fun trip to the zoo planned with some friends the next day & later in the week we had an appointment with her new orthopedic doctor for her yearly check up for her hip dysplasia. Isn’t it always when you’re tucking them into bed that they all the sudden get chatty? Or maybe that’s just our kids?

If I’m honest, she’s probably heard me play the “What if?” game a few times lately. Yesterday morning, I found myself letting my mind wander into the land of What If as Greg was preparing to leave for a motorcycle trip. My phone kept beeping alert after alert of severe weather in our area. It’s one thing to be inside during a severe thunderstorm or even driving in a car, but to be on a motorcycle, exposed to the pounding rain, wind & possible hail?? Outright dangerous. I know Greg is a smart rider and will pull over when he can but some of the routes they take on these trips are rural & nothing but corn & soybean fields for miles. Shelter can be hard to find. What Ifs were swirling around like crazy.

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I can always pinpoint any anxiety I’m feeling when I have let my faith slack & start to listen to my own inner fears instead of turning them over to God in prayer. I’m quiet by nature but when I’m feeling anxious, I withdraw from all interactions & hide {which isn’t easy in small house!}. I’m sure my kids see right through those moments & my youngest catches on to the anxiety. That is not the legacy I want to instill on my children.

As parents, it’s our job to help our kids handle the “What if?” questions with grace & wisdom.  I kindly answered her by saying {speaking to myself as much as to her}: “We don’t play the ‘What if?’ game. We trust God. We live each day to the fullest. We do not live in fear of the ‘What if?'”. Then I reminded her that the best way to defeat the What If’s is by prayer & reciting His Word. These verses immediately came to mind:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Finally, brothers, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.

Philippians 4:6-9 {emphasis mine}

Honestly, the doctor could look at those x-rays & say something doesn’t look right. Someone could get sick & we could miss the zoo trip. Greg could get caught in severe weather. Something could happen that is beyond our control. Every. Day.

Tossing around every What If thought is not going to change our reality. Our What If’s rob us from living our life to the fullest. Our What If’s can make us cower & hide.

The amazing news? We have the power of prayer & His Word to turn those What If’s into Whatevers.

Daughters. Sons. Sisters. Brothers. Think about whatever is noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, praiseworthy.

What if? Whatever!

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Comments

  1. Danielle says

    July 14, 2015 at 10:46 am

    This is so great. And I totally play the what if game waaaay more than I should. This is an incredible reminder about where we find our peace. And that verse right there…..that’s been seriously hunting me down like a wolf this month, hardcore. Love it!

    • Caroline TeSelle says

      July 15, 2015 at 9:35 am

      It keeps coming up in random places in my life too. I guess that means I still need to grasp it’s truth? 🙂

      • kimmie says

        July 16, 2015 at 6:23 am

        Yeah….then too. Luckily, we don’t fly much. 😉

  2. kimmie says

    July 14, 2015 at 2:40 pm

    Thanks HUGE for this post!!! I am mostly a giant ball of “what if” anxiety….especially if there’s a trip or an event. Icky.

    • Caroline TeSelle says

      July 15, 2015 at 9:36 am

      It happens to me every time I fly a plane…

  3. Tracey says

    July 14, 2015 at 7:45 pm

    I love this! I plan to turn my next What if? Into a Whatever!

    Just like Psalm 118:6 says: “The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” I have started to fill in the blank for man with whatever anxiety pops up.

    • Caroline TeSelle says

      July 15, 2015 at 9:38 am

      I’m going to write that one down too Tracey!

  4. Libbie Lowe says

    July 14, 2015 at 8:42 pm

    Eden is such a precious little girl and I can tell she loves her mommy. You are teaching her a very important lesson, Caroline. You are such a good mommy!!!????????????

  5. Lisa says

    July 18, 2015 at 6:07 pm

    My husband and I also ride a motorcycle, but we are somewhat older than you…it is a dangerous hobby, tho, oh so wonderfully fun. At least insist he wears a helmet ALL the time. I think your anxiety is justified (tho of course you can only pray it through)–he has you and 4 kiddos to care for and should take EVERY safety precaution (ie: a helmet!)

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